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My father recently sent me a popular fact from the net:
An English professor wrote the words: « A woman without her man is nothing »
on the chalkboard and asked his students to punctuate it correctly.
All of the males in the class wrote:
« A woman, without her man, is nothing. »
All the females in the class wrote:
« A woman: without her, man is nothing. »
The conclusion was: Punctuation is powerful.
It made me think of the way we see life, and especially how we see it all very differently. In psychology, I read once a scientist say about us seeing life through a crystal of thoughts. I really like that image. Reality is a very conceptual thing, there is no reality or truth, as is. All is modeled through our own perspective, which differs a lot from other people’s, even among families which had the same life conditions.
That brings me to different points:
– People are all different, and we sometimes have to pause in our judgments, and try to think about OTHER ways of seeing the world. Tolerance is the minimum, understanding is the optimum.
– Being positive or negative about things depends totally on how we cope with events in our life. So when we take things the negative way, we can again, pause in our judgment, and think about other ways of seeing things. An event is neither bad or good, unless lethal, of course, and still… It’s the way we interpret it that makes the difference. In some other reading, they explained how some people with different brains, can deal with extremely hard situations, on the emotion side, and do perfectly well, while others will give up, depress, or turn « evil ».
How do we deal with those situations? My way is to never cry on the past, meditate on my mistakes, as well as other people/friends’ ones, and built from that, a better life. I also take advantage of my worst aspects, and try to use them at my advantage. My very worst aspects, I try to cheat them, by finding their weaknesses to annihilate them.
An example of a very worst, that I may have passing through my life every so on: laziness. Its weaknesses in me: pride, passion. So I would flutter my pride to kill my laziness, or motivate my passion by doing crazy projects that fill me with excitement (often, just a deep thought of is enough to make me boil again with energy).
The thing is, to be able to do so, I need first to respect an important step: introspection. Pause, stop in time, look at myself, at my recent evolution, and make the right conclusion, in all objectivity. We don’t need to lie to ourselves, right? (Well, unless we have no faith at all, and like living a life that doesn’t belong to us!) Then, proceed with the available solutions that would work with me.
So, my advice, to myself and all, is to remember about that crystal we built, how to use it well, and not be blinded by it 🙂
As Avaaz writers say,
With hope,
Eden.